Biblical Peacemaking: A Path to Healing and Restoration
Conflict is an unavoidable part of life. Whether it’s tension in a marriage, a strained relationship with a friend, or division within a church or workplace, we all experience moments when peace feels far away. But God’s Word offers a different way forward-one marked by humility, forgiveness, and restoration.
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God. - Matthew 5:9
True healing happens when we follow Christ’s example of reconciliation. Biblical peacemaking isn’t just about avoiding conflict or “keeping the peace” at all costs. It’s about actively pursuing peace in a way that honors God and restores relationships.
The Cost of Unresolved Conflict
Unresolved conflict doesn’t just fade with time- it often festers. According to the American Institute of Stress, ongoing relationship conflict is a major source of emotional strain, contributing to anxiety, depression, and even physical health issues.
Within families and church communities, bitterness and division can take root when conflict is left unaddressed. Scripture, however, calls us to live differently:
If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. - Romans 12:18
1. Start with Your Own Heart
True peacemaking begins with self-examination. Jesus reminds us to take the "log out of our own eye" before addressing others’ faults (Matthew 7:5). Ask the Lord to reveal any pride, resentment, or fear within you. Peacemaking isn’t about winning an argument—it’s about restoring what’s broken.
2. Speak the Truth in Love
Truth and love must go hand in hand. Harsh words can destroy, but words spoken gently and in love have the power to heal.
Speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ. -Ephesians 4:15
Use gentle language, listen with empathy, and seek to understand rather than accuse.
3. Pursue Reconciliation, Not Just Resolution
While resolution addresses the issue, reconciliation restores the relationship. As believers, we are called to a higher standard- the ministry of reconciliation:
All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation. -2 Corinthians 5:18
This takes patience and grace, but it reflects the heart of the gospel.
4. Forgive as You’ve Been Forgiven
Forgiveness isn’t optional for the follower of Christ. It’s the foundation of our faith.
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. -Ephesians 4:32
Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing, but it does mean releasing your grip on resentment and trusting God with justice.
5. Pray for Peace and Trust God with the Outcome
You can do your part, but you can’t control the response of others. What you can do is pray—for softened hearts, for healing, and for God’s glory to be revealed in the process.
And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. -Colossians 3:15
Recommended Resource: The Peacemaker by Ken Sande
If you’re looking for practical, gospel-centered help with conflict resolution, we highly recommend The Peacemaker by Ken Sande. This biblical guide offers clear, actionable steps to navigate conflict in a way that reflects Christ’s love and truth.
You Don’t Have to Walk Alone
If you’re facing conflict and feel overwhelmed, Hope Counseling is here to help. Whether you’re navigating marriage tensions, family struggles, or personal unrest, we offer a safe and grace-filled space to explore biblical paths to peace and healing.
Our licensed, clinical counselors are committed Christians with a biblical worldview and are happy to meet with you at our offices in Amherst, OH. Please feel free to contact us to schedule an appointment using the link below.
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